I want to wear your sweatshirt to bed,
watch scary movies with you,
talk on the phone until sunrise,
sneak out at night to look at the stars with you,
play your favorite video game,
make you watch chick flicks,
kiss you in the rain,
go on walks with you,
laugh until I can't breathe,
hold hands,
build a fort and have a snowball fight,
sit in front of the fireplace and talk about life,
I want to fall hopelessly in love with you.
Sex before marry? I have consider this topic for a few days.
Because of this, I've argued with my friend.
I don't know what's the matter actually.
And I was WOW, we're arguing because of SEX!
And I was too angry at that time, I decided to remove and blocked him.
And I did it.
I was like.. Ughhhh.. Finally! I fucking hate you!
And I've made a lot of surveys.
From most of the answer from guys, they prefer sex before marry.
1. They believed that sex can improve their relationship.
2. Some of them mind their girl is a virgin, or not.. But some of them don't care because they love her.
3. They want sex before marry, because they think it's the time they should have experience with it.
4. They might just can't stand for the ridicules from their friends around.
5. They don't care about it, because the girl wasn't a virgin anymore.
6. They just can't control, when the time is coming.
7. They won't dump their girl after sex. But they're not sure with it. They'll get bored soon.
8. They did it, under emotional condition.
9. If they can't have sex before marry, they won't consider to marry that girl.
10. They want sex before marry but if children, NO WAY!!!
But only a little of them, doesn't agree with it.
They don't want to have it, they'll trying to control the situation.
This is because :
1. They know how important a virgin is for a girl.
2. They don't have enough confident to themselves.
3. They don't think it is the time, they scare of the responsible on this. No matter from the aspect of babies, or girl's first time.
4. They respect their girl. If the girl refuse, they'll listen to it.
5. They don't want ruin a relationship because of sex. Although sex might be improving a relationship, but for them, they felt no way!
6. They're still young, they can make it before marry. (Almost reach the suitable time for a marriage.)
7. They know guys are bad. They know if a guy get something they want in a short time, they'll get bored on it.
8. They want their girl trust on them.
9. They still want sex after marry. If not, their marriage will facing problems.
But somehow, they might lost control, when the situations are too .. Uncontrollable..
For girls, I have only some surveys.
Too less girls around me, and I may put my answer inside both of the answer YES and NO.
For YES, girls support LOVE before sex is because
1. They want to stop their guy from leaving.
2. They want their boy knows that they believe their boy.
3. They want to full-filled what their boy want because they love him.
4. They will trying to avoid the situation from happening, but if under unconscious situation, they might accidentally let it happened.
5. They felt that it is an experience that everybody have to go through it.
6. Once they had lost their virgin, they would just simply go for the next. Because they lose their first time.
For girls that NOT agree with the statement Sex before Marry, their responds are as what my friend scolded me : OLD FOLK!
1. They appreciating their first time.
2. They don't believe on guys. They know guys are bad.
3. They know guys would leave them when they give their first time to them, so they controlled.
4. They have own principles. They don't want did something that might let themselves regret.
5. They are trying to test their boy. They want to know the boy love them, or their bodies?
6. They rather lost the boy, than lost their virgin.
7. They don't want to be dump after being sexed up.
8. They felt it is not the time. They're still far away to reach this step.
9. They just don't like sex. Because they have bad impression with SEX.
10. They don't want to be one of the discrimination or hot topics of people.
11. They would give their virgin after they get marry.
I used to remember these points.
There are too many points and I've forgot to note it down..
I don't know which way or which point should I stand.
They have their own thought. And I believe all the points are justifying me.
But my mind is telling me, not to do it. Never do it.
I know myself. I'm weirdo.
I don't even want to have sex after marry.
Maybe just because of I have no confident with myself.
I know many of them say, LOVE not based on body or appearances.
But I believe it is based on these.I'm worrying all the time. Being dump because of bad body shape, bad image, bad appearances. Anything...
I don't like sex, seriously.
Everybody said it is perfect, beautiful, peace.
But I hate it. I feel it is dirty. Although it needs trust between couple, but I feel it is bad.
It will ruin our relationship anytime.Because of SEX, many sad cases happened.
I don't want these happen on me.
And I rather choose to dump a guy, than dump my virgin.
I don't talk about sex with my boy because I know once the topic get started, I can't control it. Or he might can't control it.
I don't like the feeling of embarrassing after having sex.
This might ruin my relationship, too.
Everybody do says that sex is to improve relationship because sex is one of the skin-ship.
But I was, YUCKS! I really don't like it.
Skin-ship doesn't means I must open up my shirts and pants just to improve my fucking relationship.
I would just end it, although I love him so deep, because this guy doesn't know how to appreciate my first time.
What if some day we break? Could he pays me back my first time? Never ever.
They'll just pay you by SORRY.
And that's all. End of the story.
And I will be the girl who always emotional because I've lost my first time, and I don't know how to explain to my future husband about my first.
Even though he doesn't care, I still care.
Because I didn't keep the best for him.I always preparing the back-up plan for myself for every relationship.
Even though after marry, I know there might be chances we'll divorce.
I must plan it all the time.I must have preparation to face all these problems.
Until the end of my surveys, I not really understand what I actually want to know.
I want to know what guys are thinking. But I can't get a constant answer.
So, I was like. Ahhh.. Let it go..
This is not the suitable time for me to consider it.
Maybe I'll know it better when I grown up.
Maybe 3 years, 5 years, 10 years, I guess.
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